Have you ever met anybody who you think is Perfect? Perfect looks,
perfect clothes, a perfect voice, a perfect manner; in short, Perfect. Most of
us have, and one thing most of us know for sure is, it isn’t us.
Many years ago I met a very beautiful young Woman. Incidentally,
I was about 2 years younger than her. Within a short time we were very good
friends. This was so much so that sometimes when we spoke together about
something I would not be able to tell you who said what because either of us
would have said the same thing. We established a fine and lasting Friendship
that endures to this day.
One day several months after I met her however, this
very pretty Girl, who had become my dear Friend, sat down on the floor and began crying like her Heart was breaking.
When she could speak, she told me that she was crying
because she wasn’t perfect. I was completely surprised because I knew she was
serious. I was also amazed because I actually thought she was as close
to perfect as I had ever seen anyone be in ‘real life’.
Although, this was a long time ago, I continue to see that beauty
and perfection, within my friend as a person, both inside and out.
At the time of the crisis however, after I got over my total surprise at what had upset my
friend, I was able to tell her immediately that I had never had her problem;
worrying about perfection.
I immediately cited a list of some of the things I saw wrong about myself. In self defence, although, I wouldn't normally point out or draw attention to my weaknesses and flaws, I
was actually only expressing my personal list of what most of us feel about ourselves.
It is amazing sometimes to hear another person
telling you about what he/she feels is wrong with them. For example, at the
simplest level, if their hair is straight, they wish it was curly and vice
versa.
With most Women you don’t even need to ask whether they
think something is wrong with them. You probably can just skip that step and ask them outright about “what part of your
body is a problem for you”? You will probably almost always get a baffling
answer. It will confuse you as to how, and possibly also why, they could
possibly feel this way. To you this ‘problem area' looks perfectly normal.
Men are not immune, although to us Women, it is a
source of amazement, and sometimes amusement, that some pretty messy and obtuse males appear to be oblivious to
their own appearance, yet freely criticise that of others, especially Women.
Maybe it’s in the genes, but most Women can spot ‘Mr. Macho’
at 20 paces. This is probably because we can tell he is confident that he would
be perfect for any of us. The way he behaves, we are certain that he probably answers the question, “Do you think I’m
sexy?” with an unequivocal YES.
Look at a few couples and you can tell who has
confidence or a thick skin. It is amazing to try and figure out how two
different species got together when they are physically (at least) so
mismatched.
What I’m saying is that next time you see someone you
think is Perfect in real life (as opposed to airbrushed cover photos of magazine Models
and Movie Stars), consider how perfect you actually are and go and let a bit of your own light show and emanate out into the world.
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